The physical heart must be exercised to grow stronger, and that discipline requires some sweat & pain. So does the growth of our emotional heart. Our love grows to the degree that we suffer & refuse to turn cold & hard.

In a world like ours, suffering is not a choice, but misery is. If in the face of suffering we say, "Enough, no more. I quit," we are choosing misery, not growth.

--dan allender, How Children Raise Parents, page 134